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Naturally, this does nothing to solve your paranoia, but it might make you feel better and it might help you mask your problem from other people.

Chances are, since you've just been paranoid 'lately,' it's related to your present living conditions.

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The Kinsey Institute sponsored another small survey on the topic in 2007, which found that self-identified asexuals "reported significantly less desire for sex with a partner, lower sexual arousability, and lower sexual excitation but did not differ consistently from non-asexuals in their sexual inhibition scores or their desire to masturbate".

Though comparisons with non-human sexuality are problematic, a series of studies done on ram mating preferences at the United States Sheep Experiment Station in Dubois, Idaho, starting in 2001 found that about 2–3% of the animals being studied had no apparent interest in mating with either sex; the researchers classified these animals as asexual, but found them to be otherwise healthy with no recorded differences in hormone levels.
Studies directly refuting your claims.

>actual problems with the function of the brain or body that you can't argue with. Retardation, severe mental illness...
Brotto concluded that there are not higher rates of psychopathology in asexuals.

The only way to legitimize having asexuality as a mental illness while homosexuality is not is by proving that it is not a legitimate sexual orientation. Unfortunately for you, while there might not be much asexuality research out there specifically regarding physiology I can pull on, there is plenty related to its legitimacy as a sexual orientation. In the above, we have dismissed retardation, mental illness, marked hormonal imbalance, and repression as causes of asexuality as an orientation. Your every point, I have summarily confronted and dismissed.

WAT NAO?!

Brotto, L. A., Knudson, G., Inskip, J., Rhodes, K., & Erskine, Y. (2010). Asexuality: A mixed methods approach. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 39, 599-618.
Roselli, Charles A.; Stormshak, F; Stellflug, JN; Resko, JA (2002). "Relationship of serum testosterone concentrations to mate preferences in rams". Biology of Reproduction 67 (1): 263-268. doi:10.1095/biolreprod67.1.263. PMID 12080026.
Prause, Nicole; Cynthia A. Graham (2004). "Asexuality: Classification and Characterization" (PDF). Archives of Sexual Behavior 36 (3): 341-356. doi:10.1007/s10508-006-9142-3. PMID 17345167.

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I was always told that it was dentists.

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So I've been pretty paranoid lately. I don't know why but I've noticed that I just hate people. I will leave my lights on in my house so my neighbors dont think I'm paranoid but then I crawl around on the floor so that they can't see me through the windows. Or sometimes if I'm early to something and I'm the first one there(which I usually am), then if no one else shows up within a few minutes I start thinking that everyone lied to me and the whole thing was made up to embarrass me or that it was canceled and no one told me. Now, obviously I'm thinking rationally enough to realize that this isn't normal, but yet I just have the urge, I mean I don't want my neighbors seeing me, etc.

pic not related.

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With asexuality you're talking about much bigger changes in the brain and how the brain regulates the rest of the body. Entire thought processes and the chemical processes which spur them that are either not present or not recognized somehow. These kinds of changes tend to only happen in people who have other disorders, and by that I mean actual problems with the function of the brain or body that you can't argue with. Retardation, severe mental illness, hormonal imbalance marked enough to cause metabolic changes or problems with development of the liver or kidneys or intestines or whatever. Not any specific thing, but rather a number of different diseases can cause, as an ancillary effect to its main problem, asexuality. People with healthy minds and bodies would very, very, very rarely have hypoactive sexual desire. It is such an extreme corner case that the best approach in treatment by far is generally to assume that they have sexual aversion which they are in denial about. They certainly do not need a movement to gain acceptance as normal, because that would mainly serve to encourage those with sexual aversion to continue repressing themselves.

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>>7087 here. I just want you to know that I like you and the way you think.

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You're contradicting yourself. Earlier, you stated that asexuality could be caused by repression due to societal influences. You also admitted that some people were born that way (genetic).

Let me summarize your points.
1. Asexuality could be induced from environmental influences.
2. There is a link between hormonal levels differing from the norm (heteros) and asexuality.
3. It's partially genetic.

Recognized causes of homosexuality:
1. Social influences.
2. Hormone levels that vary from the norm.
3. Partially genetic.

Are you saying that homosexuals aren't physiologically different from heterosexuals? If basic physiological differences are what make this a disorder, homosexuality should not be spared the title.

I would also like to point out that there is very, VERY little research at all regarding asexuality. For that matter, the subject of sexuality is one awash in a sea of speculation. It wasn't a decade ago that they were treating homosexuals with hormones to cure them of their disorder. It wasn't until the gay community cried foul that genuine research was done on the matter. This situation sounds pretty familiar, doesn't it?

]]> http://www.99chan.in/mind/res/7026.html#7095does not exist except as the symptom of an underlying physiological problem. Those without such problems who claim to have it are almost invariably in denial about the fact that they have sexual aversion disorder.

]]> http://www.99chan.in/mind/res/7091.html#7094No not really, I'm fine now but FUCK why the hell does this keep happening. When I am "there" I feel like I am sliding headlong into madness. It is like something is holding me down underwater and I am drowning.
Then when I am "through" and clear I can't even imaging what the big deal was, like it was just a bad dream.

I suppose I need to go get some kind of drugs but I'm not really keen on that. Has anyone else dealt with this?

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>Sex is an activity with a number of health benefits
Asexuals are free to relieve sexual tensions without having sex just like anyone else. Once again, I I find myself having to remind you that asexuality in no way necessitates absolute abstinence or partaking in unhealthy lifestyle choices.

>I honestly have a suspicion that the movement which seeks to have asexuality treated as normal human variance is fueled by repressive proselytes.
My suspicion is that it's fueled by asexuals who, despite being a minority, don't wish to be labeled as sexual deviants just as homosexuals were forced to fight to make their sexuality accepted as something other than a mental illness.

Oh, and you aren't describing hypoactive sexual desire disorder anymore. You're describing Sexual Aversion Disorder.

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"Permissibility" has nothing to do with this. I'm sure there are some asexuals out there who would be hurt more by somebody pressing them into therapy than they would be helped by getting it. I strongly believe that number is miniscule, but that's neither here nor there. The thing is that this isn't me "deciding" what's normal. With regard to the presence of a sex drive, physiology decides that. Sex is an activity with a number of health benefits. If a person decides to have a vegan diet, that's great for them, but it doesn't stop the fact that they are behaving in an objectively unhealthy manner, because the human body has not evolved to be completely free of meat.

Bisexuals, unlike asexuals, reap those benefits. Claiming that this is anything similar to people who disbelieve in bisexuality, or indeed pretty much any "-sexuality" that isn't "a-" is willful ignorance of what we have learned about hormones and health. Those aren't my "feelings" about "nature," it's a basic understanding of the endocrine system. I honestly have a suspicion that the movement which seeks to have asexuality treated as normal human variance is fueled by repressive proselytes.

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sooooo.
Lately I've been having panic attacks.
I can typically tell when I have one coming on: weird headspace, heart feels like it is pumping molasses, vision gets dark and wavy.

Are there any techniques to head these things off at the pass when I am at this stage? (like right now)

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>Saying that being happy in your life and meeting people you connect with is a matter of luck

I never said that, I just pointed out that it plays a big part, because it sets the "difficulty level" of the challenge.
It's you, who said, and I quote, "There is no such thing as luck".
Your own story proves it. If you hadn't met the right people maybe you would have been more and more miserable until you had no will to fight anymore. You kept going at it, sure, but we're not invincible, we all have a limit.

>Keep plugging away at it and working and struggling and eventually, you'll find yourself in a better situation.

Or worse, you know. Believing that it will be better is a matter of faith at best, and in your case just a narrative created (and a lesson that you deeply internalized) after your situation turned out for the better. This is the problem, you're talking as yourself of now, while you should talk about what made you go on in the most difficult times, what made you not lose all hope for the future. And I bet that whatever THAT is, if you dig deep enough, didn't come from your mind just willing itself into motivation mode, which is what you're basically suggesting to OP, and wasn't your doing/responsibility/choice, just something you had.

I think the most sensible advice you could give to OP from your story is: always keep trying, not because "it will get better", but because what other choice do you have? That's the cold, logical truth, without all the free-will idealism and faith, and it's all you have until you somehow internalize this lesson and thus embrace/embellish it like >>7087 did.

>>7086
>-Is my mindset wierd?

It's not common, but not weird either, I think it's pretty normal from your description: you're still sane, imo.

>>Will all this come back and kick me in the ass one day?

Probably (especially not accepting that there'll always be changes), if you leave things the way they are forever. But I think you know you can't, and that's the reason why you opened this thread.
I'll tell you the main difference between you and the people who "deal with the headaches of adulthood": they're convinced, somewhere inside them, that all the pain will be worth it. You're convinced it won't. Well I won't tell you that it'll get better, but I'm pretty sure that if you don't do something it'll get worse. I know it's empty words until you "feel it" for yourself, and it's not a great motivation, but going out, trying, and stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to at least having an idea on what you want, and how to get it (and hey, at worst, if you become homeless, at least you already have friends in the community!)

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And here we have you deciding for other people what is normal sexuality. Homosexuality is not in the normal spread of variance. Homosexuality is an outlier. Asexuality is a greater outlier, but why is one outlier permissable but another not?

Sexuality is similarly governed by the body. Homosexuals respond to different pheromones and have mental mechanisms that work differently from heterosexuals.

Now, from your perspective (and this is the point raised by OP), heterosexuality is right because it's normal and homosexuality is wrong. Otherwise, you find yourself arbitrarily placing 'normal' sexuality and mental makeup between homosexuality and asexuality rather arbitrarily.

The asexuals you met were confused teens and men in their early twenties. They claimed asexuality because they were confused due to natural hormonal imbalances inherent in that stage of life.

I know a person like you. They claim that there is no such thing as a bisexual. Everyone can be categorized into homosexual or heterosexual. Bisexuals are all people who are too embarrassed about their actual homosexuality to admit it to themselves.

Your opinions are not based on a suitable basis of evidence, they are not based on reason, and they are not based in fact. Your evidence is based on what you 'feel' is 'natural' and 'inherently right.' You are trying to rationalize your emotional intuition mixed with modern feel-good open-mindedness about sexuality and all you're doing is constructing a hypocrisy.

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>Is my mindset wierd?
No, I think a lot of people feel the way you do. Not the majority, but a lot of people have at least gone through what you're going through. I know I have.
>Will all this come back and kick me in the ass one day?
Probably, but I doubt it will be sudden. It will probably be a gradual process. Malaise, loneliness, self-loathing, etc.

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